Woman whose husband ends up with soiled pants due to IBS asks if she should boycott the laundry – as some claim he’s ‘grim’ and treating her as a ‘skivvy’ but others argue he should not be shamed because it’s not his fault
A woman who is fed up with her partner’s soiled underwear has divided opinion by asking if she should boycott the laundry.
An anonymous woman took to the British parenting forum, Mumsnet, to explain that she has to deal with unsightly marks on his boxers, and the final straw was when she noticed them on the bedsheets.
The wife, who is 29 weeks pregnant, said that she’s spoken to her husband about ‘wiping properly’ before, and he insists that he does but that it’s ‘impossible’ to ensure he’s completely clean without spending ‘ages’,
She added that whie she doesn’t want to embarass him, he suffers from IBS and that she wonders if it would be an ‘overreaction’ to ask him to see his GP, as well as her boycotting the laundry.
Commenters were left divided with some siding with the woman, saying that he’s a grown man who is treating her like a ‘skivvy’ and that his level f ‘entitlement is mindboggling’.
However, others took issue with people who described the situation as ‘grim’ and said that her husband shouldn’t be shamed for having a ‘medical issue’, referring to his IBS.
A woman took too Mumsnet to air her grievances about her partner’s problem after growing tired of cleaning his soiled pants (stock image)
The woman explained that the problem had extended to their shared bed sheets which she saw as the final straw
Commenters couldn’t decided whether the woman was being hostile and insensitive about her partner’s condition or whether he was being disgusting and thoughtless.
The woman explained: ‘I’ve broached the subject numerous times, told him to sort it out.’
‘Wipe properly (he says he does, but sometimes it’s ‘impossible to, it’ll take ages’ (?!). The final straw was this morning as I was making the bed. Skidmarks on the bottom sheet.’
‘When he came upstairs to say goodbye before he left for work I told him he needs to change the sheets. There is s**t marks and I am not touching it. I also told him I’m no longer washing his boxers.’
A bevvy of commenters came out to show their support for the woman, saying her partner was ‘grim’, and said that as a grown man he should take responsibility for his own laundry – as well as wearing pants in bed
‘He does have IBS, he is a very (read EXTREMELY) windy person and I don’t mind this as it clearly cannot be helped. Wiping your a**e properly is a choice though! I’m 29 weeks pregnant with a very annoying haemorrhoid and my pants are always clean!’
‘He showers every single morning without fail so he’s generally a very hygienic person.’
‘I don’t want to embarrass him but I don’t want to be involved in the s**t show, literally! I am going to ask him to wear pyjamas in bed from now on but is it an overreaction to ask him to perhaps go to the Dr’s?!’
Some commenters were immediately revolted by the woman’s confession and told her they thought it was unacceptable.
Some commenters were incensed at the woman’s apparent lack of empathy for her partner’s problem
One person wrote: ‘This is grim. He is clearly totally inconsiderate of you – and if you don’t draw a line op it is going to get worse. Does he think because you see about to have a baby you won’t mind cleaning up his s**t as well as the baby’s?’
Another commenter remarked on his laziness, saying: ‘No decent human expects another person to sleep in a bed with their shit on the sheets.’
‘Either it’s medical and he goes to the doctors or its laziness and he wipes his arse properly. And he definitely needs to wear something in bed so he’s not wiping s**t all over you and your bed.’
A third person simply said: ‘He’s a grown man so he can do his own laundry… simple as that.’
Some commenters, however, were offended by the woman’s tone and thought her insensitivity towards her husband’s condition had likely left him feeling too ashamed to seek help.
One person wrote: ‘I think you’re being a bit unfair. If he’s got IBS he can’t help it sometimes. Yes, I agree he needs to see a doctor. Surely it’s the washing machine that is washing his boxers unless you’re doing them by hand. Just ask him to put them in the machine himself, no need for a big fuss.’
Another commenter was incredulous, saying: ‘I can’t believe you’ve started a thread about your partner’s skid marked pants. If you don’t want to wash them, don’t.’
‘Why would you not just put the sheets in the wash when you got up.’
Another person said: ‘Maybe make it about him and not about you. You only have to read the comments here to know why he isn’t going to want to talk to you about these issues. Try and imagine how he feels. Very normal to deny problems initially.’