Bartender records harrassment by male customer who wouldn't take 'no'

Bartender, 24, records male customer harassing her and trying to lure her back to his hotel room to do DRUGS – insisting ‘it’s the least she can do’ after he spent so much money at her bar

  • Kayla Governor, from Florida, started recording her interaction with a male customer who was harassing her during her shift
  • Just before the recording started, she says the flirting had turned aggressive when he invited her to his hotel to do drugs
  • She can be heard repeatedly telling him she is not interested, but he keeps pushing, telling her she ‘seems like the type’ and ‘needs it’
  • The man tells her it’s ‘the least she can do’ because the money she made from serving him that day 
  • Kayla said she was ‘scared’ and ‘uncomfortable,’ and takes issue with how some men think female servers and bartenders ‘owe’ them something
  • ‘Men need to understand me being nice is a part of my job. Not every bartender is flirting with you,’ she said 
  • A female bartender has shared the extremely uncomfortable interaction she had with a male customer who insisted she owned him a ‘good time’ in his hotel room because he tipped her for her service. 

    Kayla Governor, 24, was already feeling ‘scared and very uncomfortable’ when she began recording during a shift last month, explaining that the man’s initially harmless flirting had turned aggressive, with him inviting her to his hotel room to do cocaine — and not taking no for answer.

    In the video, which has gone viral on TikTok, the man can be heard repeatedly batting away her refusals, telling her she ‘looks like the type’ and ‘needs it’ and arguing: ‘It’s the least you could do… because I took good care of you today. You made so much money off of me.’

    Bartender Kayla Governor filmed an interaction with a male customer who was harassing. Just before she began recording, she says the flirting had turned aggressive

    Bartender Kayla Governor filmed an interaction with a male customer who was harassing. Just before she began recording, she says the flirting had turned aggressive








    Kayla explained that she was bartending from 5 pm to midnight that evening when the man came in around six and stayed until closing — even ordering two drinks at last call. 

    ‘At first, honestly, he was very just harmlessly flirting. He barely even talked at the beginning of my shift,’ she said.

    She can be heard repeatedly telling him she is not interested, but he keeps pushing, telling her she 'seems like the type' and 'needs it'

    She can be heard repeatedly telling him she is not interested, but he keeps pushing, telling her she ‘seems like the type’ and ‘needs it’

    But toward the end of the night, ‘he started to ask me to go take him to his hotel room.

    ‘He kept asking me, “Come back to my hotel room, I’ll show you a good time, I have coke.” All this weird stuff,’ she said. 

    ‘At this point, I’m uncomfortable’ — and that’s when she began recording, aiming her camera up at the ceiling so he wouldn’t realize.  

    ‘I am not doing that,’ she can be heard telling him.

    ‘You seem like the type… I feel like you need it,’ he replies.

    ‘I don’t need it,’ she insists. 

    ‘I disagree,’ he tells her. ‘It’s the least you could do… because I took good care of you today. You made so much money off of me.’

    ‘I’m just not really into that,’ she tells him once again.

    The man asks if she has a boyfriend, when she replies in the affirmative, he asks if he’s there — and she says no.  

    ‘You’ve got a lot of fans,’ he says. ‘You’ve got a lot of people who are so afraid to talk to you. They just stare at you like weirdos and they don’t say anything.’

    The man tells her it's 'the least she can do' because the money she made from serving him that day

    The man tells her it’s ‘the least she can do’ because the money she made from serving him that day

    Kayla said she was 'scared' and 'uncomfortable,' and takes issue with how some men think female servers and bartenders 'owe' them something

    Kayla said she was ‘scared’ and ‘uncomfortable,’ and takes issue with how some men think female servers and bartenders ‘owe’ them something

    When she quips, ‘Kinda like you?’ he replies truthfully, ‘I have a lot to say actually… a whole lot of ideas. And I like to be different. How many guys come in here as cute as I am and offer you something different?’

    She answers, ‘Yeah, but I didn’t want that.’

    ‘I just feel like you don’t know that you need it,’ he tells her, to which she says, ‘I know that I don’t.’ 

    Speaking to BuzzFeed, Kayla said that men are flirty and pushy with her ‘almost every time’ she works, but this was the first time she ‘actually got scared and very uncomfortable.’

    ‘I think this honestly shows that women are still looked at as objects and property. I’m doing my job, and my job happens to be serving alcohol. That doesn’t make it okay for men to act like I owe them something else,’ she said. 

    ‘I think men need to understand me being nice is a part of my job. Not every bartender is flirting with you. We’re being nice and polite,’ she went on. 

    ‘I’m not even saying men can’t flirt with their bartender, especially if she does show interest back. However, if she says no like I did many times, then it’s time to respect the word “no.”‘

    'Men need to understand me being nice is a part of my job. Not every bartender is flirting with you,' she said

    ‘Men need to understand me being nice is a part of my job. Not every bartender is flirting with you,’ she said

    Kayla’s video has gone viral with millions of views and plenty of supportive comments.

    ‘This guy sounds like he could literally murder you out of spite due to rejection and for hurting his fragile ego,’ wrote one.

    ‘Sick… this gave me chills. Imagine what he does to intoxicated women!’ wrote another.

    ‘This is sad. He thinks it’s banter. She is trying so hard to be nice,’ wrote a third.

    A few commenters suggested that Kayla should have just been rude to the man, but she pointed out that this is her job — and her ability to pay her bills rests on getting paid and providing good service. 

    ‘That may seem selfish or even stupid, but at the end of the day, I need to make money. Without tips, I’m going home with less than $4 an hour. It’s really hard being a woman in the service industry. You never know how men are going to react,’ she said.

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