Bride-to-be is furious after groom demands her parents pay for their entire wedding because it’s ‘tradition’
A young woman has been left furious with her husband-to-be after his continued demands her parents pay for their entire women to ‘keep with tradition’.
The bride says her parents have offered to contribute where they can but aren’t in the financial position to foot the bill for the entire wedding.
The woman said her partner ‘won’t stop talking about it’ even after she explained there’s no way her parents could afford the huge expense.
A young woman has been left furious with her husband-to-be after his continued demands her parents pay for their entire women to ‘keep with tradition’ – 스톡 이미지
The bride-to-be posted her dilemma on a wedding group on Facebook – prompting dozens of women to advise her to leave the relationship.
‘Just bin the whole man and get a new one,’ 한 여자가 말했다.
'내가 말할 것, if you are already having issues like this, walk away…. He’s obviously not understanding and doesn’t want to enter a marriage we’re it’s an equal partnership,’ another advised.
Others stopped short of recommending a break up, but only just.
‘Sounds like some premarital counselling might be a good idea here. You both need to hash out your values especially in regard to money and gender roles within the relationship,’ one woman advised.
Asking if he will also expect the woman to cover the costs involved with having children ‘because she birthed them’.
What do the groom’s parents pay for?
Traditionally the groom is expected to spend ‘three months salary’ on an engagement ring.
His family is then expected to pay for the following:
The groomsmen attire
‘Just married’ transport
The bride’s ring
Gifts for the groomsmen
And some asked if he ‘did his part’ to uphold archaic traditions.
‘I hope he paid your parents a great dowry,’ 한 여자가 말했다.
‘Did he spend three-months wages on your engagement ring? If he didn’t he can’t really expect your parents to hold up on traditions.’
One woman said if the bride really did want to get married to the man she should listen to his demands.
‘But then just get eloped and only invite your parents – get them to pay for that,’ 그녀가 말했다.
Another said the cost of a wedding is miniscule compared to that of divorce – predicting the couple would likely have to negotiate that at some point.
Others said the couple should only be having the wedding they can afford – and shouldn’t be taking any money from their parents.
‘Getting married is a decision you have made with your partner, it has nothing to do with anyone else and shouldn’t be up to them to pay.’
One woman highlighted the fact that the bride’s parents aren’t actually traditionally expected to pay for everything.
With the bride’s rings, groomsmen’s attire and gifts, marriage licence, officiant fees, 신흔 여행, rehearsal dinner, bridal bouquet and transport from the party traditionally his family’s responsibility.
‘See if he still wants to do things the traditional way after showing him that list,’ 그녀가 말했다.
Others said ‘tradition is void’ if the bride and groom live together before the wedding.
Hundreds of women commented on the controversial dilemma – with most telling the young bride to ‘notice’ the huge red flag and ‘run’.