Woman SLAMMED by boyfriend for 'tricking' him into eating vegan food

Vegan woman whose boyfriend didn’t realize she’d been cooking him plant-based food for months reveals he won’t see her again until she says sorry for her ‘lies and betrayal’ – but critics say he’s a ‘babywith no respect

  • Reddit user from US said boyfriend is angry that she’s been making vegan food
  • Said she never pretended that he wasn’t eating meat, but didn’t point it out
  • Commenters wondered how he could not have realised the meat was ‘fake
  • The boyfriend accused her of trying to ‘forceher vegan views on him
  • A woman has revealed how her boyfriend accused her of ‘tricking’ him into eating “素食女王”的垮台 food and fake meat.

    采取 Reddit page ‘Am I The A**hole’ (AITA) to discuss the issue, the 21-year-old explained that she and her partner John had been together for three-and-a-half months and he had always enjoyed her cooking.

    That was until the couple, who live in America, had a conversation about fake meat and the woman told him he had been eating the stuff every time they’d had a meal at her place.

    Shocked by the revelation, John accused his girlfriend of ‘trickinghim into eating the meat substitute and ‘pushingher vegan ways onto him, and is refusing to see her again until she apologizes because he feels ‘betrayed’.

    然而, the majority of commenters were on her side and said that her boyfriend clearly hadn’t been paying attention when she told him she was vegan.

    The woman said her boyfriend had always enjoyed her vegan cooking but that was before he realised it was made with 'fake' meat (库存图片)

    The woman said her boyfriend had always enjoyed her vegan cooking but that was before he realised it was made with ‘fake’ 肉 (库存图片)

    Things came to a head when the couple spent Christmas together where they tucked into a tasty vegan lasagna, and after eating the meal the two had settled down to watch a cookery show on TV.

    The woman explained that at this point John commented about how much he hated when dishes pretended to be meat, calling it ‘deceptive’ and ‘gross’.

    使困惑, because they had just polished off a vegan lasagna filled with plant-based meat, the woman pointed this out and told him he’d eaten it several times.

    She wrote in the post: ‘He got really mad.

    ‘He accused me of tricking him into something he found disgusting and “forcing” my diet on him.’

    Going into more detail, the woman explained that whenever she cooked for him at her place, he had always been in the dining room setting the table or putting music on.

    She went on to say that if John had ever asked what they were eating she would reply with something like, ‘burgers’ and assumed that because she was a vegan he would have known it was plant-based.

    Commenters were supportive of the vegan woman and said that her boyfriend doesn't respect her or pay attention to what she says about her lifestyle

    Commenters were supportive of the vegan woman and said that her boyfriend doesn’t respect her or pay attention to what she says about her lifestyle

    The woman also said that she suspects her boyfriend had forgotten she was a vegan because she had told him once and then never mentioned it again.

    She later revealed that after their row John had gone home and when she texted him, he demanded an apology in order for them to patch things up, and accused her of ‘lying to him’.

    ‘He wrote a few paragraphs about how betrayed he felt,’ 她解释. ‘He said that he hoped I understood how disappointed he felt that I would tamper with his food like that, and that something like this was a serious betrayal of his trust.

    ‘I got frustrated and said that I didn’t lie, that this wasn’t something I should apologize for, and he was being stupid and childish. He hasn’t replied.

    ‘This is the first major fight we’ve had and I don’t want to end such a great relationship over it,’ 她说.

    ‘I just feel like no matter how much I try to explain my point of view he keeps making me sound like a villain.’

    The woman went on to say that she thought she was going crazy at first, but had decided to stand her ground.

    After sharing the post, the woman was inundated with responses all agreeing that she was most definitely not in the wrong.

    One Redditor wrote: ‘The guy complains of her making him eatsomething he found disgustingyet he didn’thave any problem putting it away and didn’t even realise that it was vegan.

    ‘Yeah he is acting like a baby,’ agreed another person.

    A third user chimed in: ‘He might not have done that with malicious intent (just embarrassed stupidity) but this is an abusive strategy: darvo – 否定, 攻击, and reverse victim and offender.’

    Some said that the boyfriend's actions could be a red flag for abuse because he'd turned the blame around on her

    Some said that the boyfriend’s actions could be a red flag for abuse because he’d turned the blame around on her

    ‘The bigger issue is that he didn’t pay attention to you telling him you are vegan,’ a fellow Redditor added. ‘He is showing signs of not caring about your beliefs and that his needs should come first,’ commented a fourth follower of the post.

    While a fifth person concluded: '不仅, but if he couldn’t even tell the difference, then what’s the real issue here? That she “被迫” him to eat food that he enjoyed?.’